Some people are comfortable being in a body. They like exercise and athletics. Some are very grounded. I tend to wonder if these people are as comfortable with emotions. Do you ever notice in any given day, how many emotions seek your attention? Are you comfortable when this happens? I think they catch many of us off guard. “What? Where did that come from?” “Oh, no, not that again!” “I don’t want to deal with that, here, now!”

Then there are those who are at home with emotions, maybe not always comfortable, and yet, “Be, in my body?” “Let emotions flow through the body?” “But what about trust?” “What about whether or not I’m comfortable?”

I don’t think we’re taught how to feel our feelings, and, how to let them flow in and through our own body.

Have you ever noticed what happens to and with people who live with disabilities? Usually, the first things that happens is someone wants to “put” us somewhere, usually in a chair. It’s assumed such people are not as physical. No! A wonderful therapist told me years ago, “You need to be more physical, not less!” Yes! It took me a long time to make this my own.

I’ve often said that people with disabilities often live between feeling isolated or violated. Neither is a good place. Both are lonely

In my “Differentness training sessions, we would talk about words and stereotypes, images that come to mind when people hear words such as: disabled, handicapped, afflicted, invalid. Usually they bring images of less-than to mind. I wish I had a recording of the many times I would say: “spell invalid.” A student would start: “I n v a l i d. I n v a l i d. I n v a l i d. Oh! In valid!!!” And then I would ask: “Who are people in our society we try to make or keep INVALID?” Women? Children? People with disabilities? People of a different race? People of a minority? Equally, we do it to men. Kids decide parents are invalid. Any one group does it to and about others.

When have you felt you were treated as though you are invalid?

And what happens to self-esteem when one gets a message they are invalid? What happens to emotions that want to come up and be expressed, or to feelings about being in a body? What happens when someone gets up, after being “put” somewhere and begins to move around? Do they move freely, or are they stared at, spoken to as though they can’t, shouldn’t, know what they know, make their own choices, move freely? If you don’t like feeling invalid, how can you validate someone or others in your life more fully? To whom can you give more room to be who they are and express feeling and be comfortable with their own beingness in a body?

Being in a body means it’s good to have boundaries! It’s good to move freely and to express fully! It’s good to allow emotions to flow through and from our bodies.

Being valid isn’t about right or wrong. It isn’t about feelings that are reasonable or anything that has to make sense! Feeling are quite beautiful, really. They affirm our aliveness and individual experience and expression.

We talk about body, mind and spirit because all three are important. Many people try to ignore one or the other. I think we came into this life to live from all three. I encourage you, all of us, to let ourselves feel, think, intuit, sense, and to be in the body, allowing all that wants to be experienced and expressed! In fact, we have so many phrases that say to much: trusting the gut! Listening to the heart. I used to do a guided imagery scan through the body, with many phrases we’ve typically used with body parts. It’s powerful!

Your body, your emotions, your mind and the Spirit realm continue to seek our attention. Let’s be a friend to these parts of self! They are resources! They are there to support us! Let’s let them work for us! Let’s say no to anyone who wants to assume we are less than the fullness of who we are! Let’s say yes to all that wants to seek expression and experience through us!

My last birthday was a mile marker. I claimed it as a “Rite Of Passage.” I also claimed it as a Right Of Passage. I knew I
earned it, from every life experience! Since last fall, a series of experiences began to stir within me, waking me in new ways from old memories, beliefs,
templates of being in the world. Some that arose, I wanted to yell at them and say: “Where did you come from? You weren’t supposed to return! Some I welcomed
back as old friends Gradually I have welcomed all of them to sit around my table, adding to the grandness of who I am and all that I bring to life. Perhaps
for many, if not all of us, life is like an ongoing pot luck. We bring what we bring, and sometimes we just show up and allow ourselves to be fed or visit,
or just observe. This past year, I grappled with the thought of missing professional licenses I had chosen to relinquish. With a lot of ambivalence, I
toyed with doing the work to get new ones. As I thought about all of this, I wondered if I had “done it wrong”, short changed myself. I considered other
interests… Yet as I knew I had claimed this rite of passage, something kept telling me that what I was searching for had always been right within my reach,
part of a sense of mission that has always propelled me forward. It’s All About Relationships What has been the most bumpy ride of your life? For me, it’s
been relationships. It’s been my craving. How to connect! How to allow! How to resolve! How to say no! How to say yes! How to ask! How to find and keep
healthy boundaries! Did you grow up learning these things? I don’t think most of us did or do. I don’t think our world teaches these things, really. We’re
taught by our media to listen to it rather than ourselves. We’re encouraged to “be like everybody else.” How are we supposed to learn to listen to and
like self? And if we don’t like or know self, how are we supposed to let someone else love us? If we think we’re just supposed to know how to do things,
feel like we’re inadequate if we express we don’t always know, how are we supposed to allow ourselves to learn from others? I don’t know about you, but
last time I checked, one size doesn’t fit all! When I listen to someone else, I learn about them. Usually I also learn more about me, adding more wisdom
and empathy to my own resourcefulness. Resourcefulness gives me more ability to respond, AKA response-ability! Looking back, when I went into the massage
field, I envisioned massage, healing and what I now refer to as “Nourishing Touch”, to be loving, gifts, service I bring and share. I knew I wanted to
give these as gifts. People might want to give gifts to me as well. Some will and some won’t. It was meant then and I recognize it is what I choose now,
to allow touch to be given in loving service. Before I ever studied any kind of healing, I experienced a deep and inner-guided healing of my own. To me,
healing is not so much a technique, it is a touch that allows Spirit-Energy to pass from my hands to you. I will be creating my own protocol for the way
I first envisioned the touch that is mine to bring. While it’s good to provide Deep Tissue massage, it was never my passion, never what I wanted on my
menu. It’s one of those where I always did my best to give what people said they wanted. It reminds me of going to some of the Fast Food places where they
try to sell us on the super size! “You should want the biggest, the most extreme!” I felt this was the direction of the massage field and I never bought
it and so now, as I give this, (even if I give what friends ask for in the way of Deep Tissue from time-to-time, it will be the real influence of my own
real sense of what’s needed: Nourishing Touch that’s experienced by those who receive it. Hallelujah! My business is all about relationships! What did
I crave? What still filles and warms my heart? From where do I draw the wisdom I bring to others? It’s always for me, in and about relationships! In elementary
school I first knew I wanted to be a teacher. In eights grade, there was an experimental Social Studies class, all about personal growth and relationships.
I loved it! In what was called Community College back in the day, I found the teachers and the classes with these themes. They were usually under the banner
of Humanistic Psych. So I attended University of West Florida first oping to major in Interpersonal Communication, (communication between people.) There
was only one course, so eventually I switched to psych. Seeking more of the same, I found what was then known as West Georgia College, (Now AKA West Georgia
University), to get my Masters in Humanistic psych. It was such a great place, I stayed and got an Ed. Specialist in Counselor Ed., (two graduate degrees
in two years.) I did all the course work in two doctoral degrees and let them each go. Recently I thought of finishing one of them but decided it’s not
mine to do, at least not at this time. No! What’s mine to do is to allow this journey to bring all that I’ve been building for years to simply be what
it wants to be! I recently told one of my friends that I am an Animal Whisperer. I can give pills, give Insulin to my cat… She says I am also a “People
Whisperer.” So I’ve added whisperer to my list of who I am and what I bring. Another friend says I am a Relationship Intuitive.” I won’t give you psychic
predictions, though you will likely hear real, deep wisdom and empathy from me that may help you with your life and relationships.http://www.debbiehazelton.com/wp-login.php
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It’s Another Rite Of Passage My last birthday was a mile marker. I claimed it as a “Rite Of Passage.” I also claimed it as a Right of Passage. I knew I
earned it, from every life experience! Since last fall, a series of experiences began to stir within me, waking me in new ways from old memories, beliefs,
templates of being in the world. Some that arose, I wanted to yell at them and say: “Where did you come from? You weren’t supposed to return! Some I welcomed
back as old friends Gradually I have welcomed all of them to sit around my table, adding to the grandness of who I am and all that I bring to life. Perhaps
for many, if not all of us, life is like an ongoing pot luck. We bring what we bring, and sometimes we just show up and allow ourselves to be fed or visit,
or just observe. This past year, I grappled with the thought of missing professional licenses I had chosen to relinquish. With a lot of ambivalence, I
toyed with doing the work to get new ones. As I thought about all of this, I wondered if I had “done it wrong”, short changed myself. I considered other
interests… Yet as I knew I had claimed this rite of passage, something kept telling me that what I was searching for had always been right within my reach,
part of a sense of mission that has always propelled me forward. It’s All About Relationships What has been the most bumpy ride of your life? For me, it’s
been relationships. It’s been my craving. How to connect! How to allow! How to resolve! How to say no! How to say yes! How to ask! How to find and keep
healthy boundaries! Did you grow up learning these things? I don’t think most of us did or do. I don’t think our world teaches these things, really. We’re
taught by our media to listen to it rather than ourselves. We’re encouraged to “be like everybody else.” How are we supposed to learn to listen to and
like self? And if we don’t like or know self, how are we supposed to let someone else love us? If we think we’re just supposed to know how to do things,
feel like we’re inadequate if we express we don’t always know, how are we supposed to allow ourselves to learn from others? I don’t know about you, but
last time I checked, one size doesn’t fit all! When I listen to someone else, I learn about them. Usually I also learn more about me, adding more wisdom
and empathy to my own resourcefulness. Resourcefulness gives me more ability to respond, AKA response-ability! Looking back, when I went into the massage
field, I envisioned massage, healing and what I now refer to as “Nourishing Touch”, to be loving, gifts, service I bring and share. I knew I wanted to
give these as gifts. People might want to give gifts to me as well. Some will and some won’t. It was meant then and I recognize it is what I choose now,
to allow touch to be given in loving service. Before I ever studied any kind of healing, I experienced a deep and inner-guided healing of my own. To me,
healing is not so much a technique, it is a touch that allows Spirit-Energy to pass from my hands to you. I will be creating my own protocol for the way
I first envisioned the touch that is mine to bring. While it’s good to provide Deep Tissue massage, it was never my passion, never what I wanted on my
menu. It’s one of those where I always did my best to give what people said they wanted. It reminds me of going to some of the Fast Food places where they
try to sell us on the super size! “You should want the biggest, the most extreme!” I felt this was the direction of the massage field and I never bought
it and so now, as I give this, (even if I give what friends ask for in the way of Deep Tissue from time-to-time, it will be the real influence of my own
real sense of what’s needed: Nourishing Touch that’s experienced by those who receive it. Hallelujah! My business is all about relationships! What did
I crave? What still filles and warms my heart? From where do I draw the wisdom I bring to others? It’s always for me, in and about relationships! In elementary
school I first knew I wanted to be a teacher. In eights grade, there was an experimental Social Studies class, all about personal growth and relationships.
I loved it! In what was called Community College back in the day, I found the teachers and the classes with these themes. They were usually under the banner
of Humanistic Psych. So I attended University of West Florida first oping to major in Interpersonal Communication, (communication between people.) There
was only one course, so eventually I switched to psych. Seeking more of the same, I found what was then known as West Georgia College, (Now AKA West Georgia
University), to get my Masters in Humanistic psych. It was such a great place, I stayed and got an Ed. Specialist in Counselor Ed., (two graduate degrees
in two years.) I did all the course work in two doctoral degrees and let them each go. Recently I thought of finishing one of them but decided it’s not
mine to do, at least not at this time. No! What’s mine to do is to allow this journey to bring all that I’ve been building for years to simply be what
it wants to be! I recently told one of my friends that I am an Animal Whisperer. I can give pills, give Insulin to my cat… She says I am also a “People
Whisperer.” So I’ve added whisperer to my list of who I am and what I bring. Another friend says I am a Relationship Intuitive.” I won’t give you psychic
predictions, though you will likely hear real, deep wisdom and empathy from me that may help you with your life and relationships.http://www.debbiehazelton.com/wp-login.php
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It’s Another Rite Of Passage My last birthday was a mile marker. I claimed it as a “Rite Of Passage.” I also claimed it as a Right of Passage. I knew I earned it, from every life experience! Since last fall, a series of experiences began to stir within me, waking me in new ways from old memories, beliefs, templates of being in the world. Some that arose, I wanted to yell at them and say: “Where did you come from? You weren’t supposed to return! Some I welcomed back as old friends Gradually I have welcomed all of them to sit around my table, adding to the grandness of who I am and all that I bring to life. Perhaps for many, if not all of us, life is like an ongoing pot luck. We bring what we bring, and sometimes we just show up and allow ourselves to be fed or visit, or just observe. This past year, I grappled with the thought of missing professional licenses I had chosen to relinquish. With a lot of ambivalence, I toyed with doing the work to get new ones. As I thought about all of this, I wondered if I had “done it wrong”, short changed myself. I considered other interests… Yet as I knew I had claimed this rite of passage, something kept telling me that what I was searching for had always been right within my reach, part of a sense of mission that has always propelled me forward. It’s All About Relationships What has been the most bumpy ride of your life? For me, it’s been relationships. It’s been my craving. How to connect! How to allow! How to resolve! How to say no! How to say yes! How to ask! How to find and keep healthy boundaries! Did you grow up learning these things? I don’t think most of us did or do. I don’t think our world teaches these things, really. We’re taught by our media to listen to it rather than ourselves. We’re encouraged to “be like everybody else.” How are we supposed to learn to listen to and like self? And if we don’t like or know self, how are we supposed to let someone else love us? If we think we’re just supposed to know how to do things, feel like we’re inadequate if we express we don’t always know, how are we supposed to allow ourselves to learn from others? I don’t know about you, but last time I checked, one size doesn’t fit all! When I listen to someone else, I learn about them. Usually I also learn more about me, adding more wisdom and empathy to my own resourcefulness. Resourcefulness gives me more ability to respond, AKA response-ability! Looking back, when I went into the massage field, I envisioned massage, healing and what I now refer to as “Nourishing Touch”, to be loving, gifts, service I bring and share. I knew I wanted to give these as gifts. People might want to give gifts to me as well. Some will and some won’t. It was meant then and I recognize it is what I choose now, to allow touch to be given in loving service. Before I ever studied any kind of healing, I experienced a deep and inner-guided healing of my own. To me, healing is not so much a technique, it is a touch that allows Spirit-Energy to pass from my hands to you. I will be creating my own protocol for the way I first envisioned the touch that is mine to bring. While it’s good to provide Deep Tissue massage, it was never my passion, never what I wanted on my menu. It’s one of those where I always did my best to give what people said they wanted. It reminds me of going to some of the Fast Food places where they try to sell us on the super size! “You should want the biggest, the most extreme!” I felt this was the direction of the massage field and I never bought it and so now, as I give this, (even if I give what friends ask for in the way of Deep Tissue from time-to-time, it will be the real influence of my own real sense of what’s needed: Nourishing Touch that’s experienced by those who receive it. Hallelujah! My business is all about relationships! What did I crave? What still filles and warms my heart? From where do I draw the wisdom I bring to others? It’s always for me, in and about relationships! In elementary school I first knew I wanted to be a teacher. In eights grade, there was an experimental Social Studies class, all about personal growth and relationships. I loved it! In what was called Community College back in the day, I found the teachers and the classes with these themes. They were usually under the banner of Humanistic Psych. So I attended University of West Florida first oping to major in Interpersonal Communication, (communication between people.) There was only one course, so eventually I switched to psych. Seeking more of the same, I found what was then known as West Georgia College, (Now AKA West Georgia University), to get my Masters in Humanistic psych. It was such a great place, I stayed and got an Ed. Specialist in Counselor Ed., (two graduate degrees in two years.) I did all the course work in two doctoral degrees and let them each go. Recently I thought of finishing one of them but decided it’s not mine to do, at least not at this time. No! What’s mine to do is to allow this journey to bring all that I’ve been building for years to simply be what it wants to be! I recently told one of my friends that I am an Animal Whisperer. I can give pills, give Insulin to my cat… She says I am also a “People Whisperer.” So I’ve added whisperer to my list of who I am and what I bring. Another friend says I am a Relationship Intuitive.” I won’t give you psychic predictions, though you will likely hear real, deep wisdom and empathy from me that may help you with your life and relationships.http://www.debbiehazelton.com/wp-login.php
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of Passage. I knew I earned it, from every life experience! Since last fall, a series of experiences began to stir within me, waking me in new ways from
old memories, beliefs, templates of being in the world. Some that arose, I wanted to yell at them and say: “Where did you come from? You weren’t supposed
to return! Some I welcomed back as old friends Gradually I have welcomed all of them to sit around my table, adding to the grandness of who I am and all
that I bring to life. Perhaps for many, if not all of us, life is like an ongoing pot luck. We bring what we bring, and sometimes we just show up and allow
ourselves to be fed or visit, or just observe. This past year, I grappled with the thought of missing professional licenses I had chosen to relinquish.
With a lot of ambivalence, I toyed with doing the work to get new ones. As I thought about all of this, I wondered if I had “done it wrong”, short changed
myself. I considered other interests… Yet as I knew I had claimed this rite of passage, something kept telling me that what I was searching for had always
been right within my reach, part of a sense of mission that has always propelled me forward. It’s All About Relationships What has been the most bumpy
ride of your life? For me, it’s been relationships. It’s been my craving. How to connect! How to allow! How to resolve! How to say no! How to say yes!
How to ask! How to find and keep healthy boundaries! Did you grow up learning these things? I don’t think most of us did or do. I don’t think our world
teaches these things, really. We’re taught by our media to listen to it rather than ourselves. We’re encouraged to “be like everybody else.” How are we
supposed to learn to listen to and like self? And if we don’t like or know self, how are we supposed to let someone else love us? If we think we’re just
supposed to know how to do things, feel like we’re inadequate if we express we don’t always know, how are we supposed to allow ourselves to learn from
others? I don’t know about you, but last time I checked, one size doesn’t fit all! When I listen to someone else, I learn about them. Usually I also learn
more about me, adding more wisdom and empathy to my own resourcefulness. Resourcefulness gives me more ability to respond, AKA response-ability! Looking
back, when I went into the massage field, I envisioned massage, healing and what I now refer to as “Nourishing Touch”, to be loving, gifts, service I bring
and share. I knew I wanted to give these as gifts. People might want to give gifts to me as well. Some will and some won’t. It was meant then and I recognize
it is what I choose now, to allow touch to be given in loving service. Before I ever studied any kind of healing, I experienced a deep and inner-guided
healing of my own. To me, healing is not so much a technique, it is a touch that allows Spirit-Energy to pass from my hands to you. I will be creating
my own protocol for the way I first envisioned the touch that is mine to bring. While it’s good to provide Deep Tissue massage, it was never my passion,
never what I wanted on my menu. It’s one of those where I always did my best to give what people said they wanted. It reminds me of going to some of the
Fast Food places where they try to sell us on the super size! “You should want the biggest, the most extreme!” I felt this was the direction of the massage
field and I never bought it and so now, as I give this, (even if I give what friends ask for in the way of Deep Tissue from time-to-time, it will be the
real influence of my own real sense of what’s needed: Nourishing Touch that’s experienced by those who receive it. Hallelujah! My business is all about
relationships! What did I crave? What still filles and warms my heart? From where do I draw the wisdom I bring to others? It’s always for me, in and about
relationships! In elementary school I first knew I wanted to be a teacher. In eights grade, there was an experimental Social Studies class, all about personal
growth and relationships. I loved it! In what was called Community College back in the day, I found the teachers and the classes with these themes. They
were usually under the banner of Humanistic Psych. So I attended University of West Florida first oping to major in Interpersonal Communication, (communication
between people.) There was only one course, so eventually I switched to psych. Seeking more of the same, I found what was then known as West Georgia College,
(Now AKA West Georgia University), to get my Masters in Humanistic psych. It was such a great place, I stayed and got an Ed. Specialist in Counselor Ed.,
(two graduate degrees in two years.) I did all the course work in two doctoral degrees and let them each go. Recently I thought of finishing one of them
but decided it’s not mine to do, at least not at this time. No! What’s mine to do is to allow this journey to bring all that I’ve been building for years
to simply be what it wants to be! I recently told one of my friends that I am an Animal Whisperer. I can give pills, give Insulin to my cat… She says I
am also a “People Whisperer.” So I’ve added whisperer to my list of who I am and what I bring. Another friend says I am a Relationship Intuitive.” I won’t
give you psychic predictions, though you will likely hear real, deep wisdom and empathy from me that may help you with your life and relationships.

Are you more like a dog or a cat in a relationship, and/or, do you prefer one more than the other?

While I love both dogs and cats, I’m more like a cat, and more apt to prefer cat behavior, cat people.

I like independence.

Cats show when they choose to be close. They come and go. My cats always come back. They show they love me, yet they are not so glued and clingy that I feel I HAVE TO respond every moment.

Cats show when they want attention, when they want affection. They show their choices. They also show when they want to be in their own space. Sometimes still nearby, they just want to be undisturbed.

I find the cat who stays around the most is the one who knows it’s safe to trust, to know they can get what they want or need, including feeling safe and respected.